While Spring cleaning my house I found a multitude of beautiful bath and body products that I have been gifted over the years. They smell divine and feel luscious and indulgent. I had to take a minute to ask myself “Why have I never used these?” They have always been “for special occasions”, but with life quite often getting busier and busier, those few moments to enjoy a little luxury have slipped away. I find that I have been waiting for the right time to use them instead of just enjoying them.
We can often find the time to care for others, but we put our own care of the back-burner. We find the time to call a friend who may be struggling, to buy a gift or send flowers for a birthday, to help a family member with something. When do you find the time for yourself? When do you actively engage in meeting your own needs?
NSW Community Health states that self-care covers a wide range of issues including physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual individual needs.
“There is no formula for self-care. Each “self-care plan” will be unique and
change over time. Ultimately, we must listen well to our own bodies,
hearts, and minds, as well as to the voices and messages from trusted
friends, as we seek resiliency and renewal in our lives and work.”
NSW Community Health
There’s no denying that if you aren’t used to it, then acknowledging and acting on you self-care needs can feel strange but it is important to remember a few points:
Self-care means that you are more able to take care of others.
Self-care is about listening to your body and responding to its needs
Self-care is different things to different people, so find what suits you!
Self-care is not selfish
Self-care is not an emergency response for when you are stressed or struggling. It should be part of your daily routine.
There layers of self-care; basic, conscious and luxurious. Once again, finding what is right for you at all these levels is the key.
Basic self-care is about the things that enable us to look after our primary needs; eating, sleeping, bathing, even going to the toilet!
Conscious self-care focuses on things that not only contribute to our health and wellbeing, but also give us a sense of enjoyment and peace; Practising mindfulness, wearing clothes that make you feel good, reading, exercise, music, crafts, exploring spirituality, etc
Luxurious self-care are the things that we do occasionally to really give ourselves a boost; spa treatments, a golf day, holidays, going out for dinner.
So how will you look after you? What are your self-care strategies? It would be great to get some ideas from you all that we can collate and share!
NOTE FROM NIC -
Thank You Sarah for this blog. I am so honoured by our discussion on this topic, and how we are both becoming more aware about the need of self care (yet we are both honest in that we are not good in always doing it).
I was speaking with a health nurse this week, who said it is not uncommon for women to become constipated when raising their little ones, as even taking the time for the toilet becomes something they give up.
Self care is incredibly important, as from self care will stem your confidence. If having your nails done makes you smile each time you see your painted nails, then invest the time to have them done. This is not something to feel guilty about, as you are incredibly important.
A client this week (S.J) shared this cub story with me. I am going to relay it to you, as it fits into this self care email well.
She described how she had read an article about a hungry tiger with her cubs. The mother tiger goes,kills an animal, and then eats the animal, rather than feeding her cubs.
The article explains that by her doing this, the mother tiger is then stronger to go hunt down a bigger beast kill for her cubs to eat.
The mother tiger knew her strength was vital, to the life of her cubs.
Interesting piece to read, agree?
Where are you at with self care? Is it something you actively invest in on a daily or weekly basis? Do you also have a bathroom draw fill with nice soaps, like Sarah? It is Sunday night, the kids are in bed, go find the bath salts and maybe run yourself a nice bath. These activities add value to our health.