POWER OF WORDS - I hear clients say this to me daily,
"hopefully I will lose some weight by next visit".
NO! There is so much doubt in your voice. And if you say it, you know I get cranky with you (in love) and encourage you to say your actions with authority. Say I will.... Your ears hear your voice.
This piece Sarah sent through this week, and I had to share it with you. It is exactly what I have been talking about with many of you. xx
Your own words are an incredibly powerful tool to have on your side, but getting them to work in your favour isn’t always as easy as you’d think. Self-talk can cripple or empower you, it can be the difference between moving standing still or moving forward towards your goals.
Take a moment to reflect on how you talk to yourself. Is it full of “should have’s” and “I can’t” or “I don’t”?? Or do you back yourself with a whole heap of high-fives, pats on the back and “I’ve got this!”? The way you talk to yourself should be no different than the way you would talk to any of your loved ones. You are special, show yourself a little love and kindness.
This is more than repeating positive affirmation cards in the mirror daily in a hope that your life will improve, it is using words and phrases that lead to you believing in your own abilities and strengths. How many times have you argued with yourself about something that you were doing, whether this is mentally or out loud?
“I’m too busy to work out”
“I’m too tired to cook a nutritious meal”
“I will start tomorrow”
“I look stupid”
“It’s too hard!”
Keep saying it and you will believe it. You will behave in line with these thoughts.
So what if we changed it, even a little?
“I do find time in my schedule to work out”
“I fuel my body with nutritious foods”
“I am living it now!”
“I am determined”
“I can overcome and push through my hurdles”
If this is hard to implement in your mind then right them down on flash cards to read and challenge those self-defeating thoughts.Our words are so powerful that they can challenge and change our belief system. This is what parts of the commonly used Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) is based on. It has us identify thought patterns which do not serve us positively, and that are often linked to difficult emotional responses, and then helps us to challenge these thoughts to help us engage in our lives more fully.
Start living your life “as if”… if you want to lose weight then instead of telling yourself “Starting tomorrow I will eat healthier and I will work towards exercising 4times a week”, tell yourself “I am a strong person who eats healthy, nutritious food. I am active 4 times a week”. If you make the statement in the present tense you are more likely to act upon it rather than have it always being a plan for tomorrow or next week, which never comes.
So this week I challenge you to be mindful of how you talk to yourself. I challenge you to remind yourself of these important words…..